Unbearably Black

Over the years life as intolerably cruel and unfair as it is  , has proven to me that despite my efforts to avoid the gripping melancholia that has encroached me ever more , I once again find that I am imprisoned by my own depressive misery.
To the naked eye of an outsider nothing of a truly tragic nature has ever occured.
my inconspicuous past has lead many to believe me to be well and discard any notion of the unbearably black burdens that  haunt me…
however it is the little things that have built up and resided within me that have turned me into this cold , hard, unyielding person.
As emotionally barren and derelict as I Have become , in many cases i was merely a victim of my own misfortune , my choices in remaining obdurate as ever and my ditherings and procrastinations in changing my behavior have cost me greatly.
The undeniable truth has crushed me into realizing that to my own detriment, I do not really like who I am or rather what Ive become… and therefore it would be irrational of me to expect others to come and accept what i have evolved into , I write this only for myself to remain amongst one of the many things left unsaid and unspoken between us…

Sufferings

It has been quite a while since your last encounter from your dearly departed author but now that I am back ,   all I can say about the past few months is that I suffered in silence….I truly suffered in my own silence…
Being unable to speak of the woes and worries that surround my  life with no one who could ever understand the wailing tantrums that lie within had a deep and lasting toll on me.

Despite this I have astonishingly chosen to keep the past hidden in its place as it is,  since whilst i endured that which one man should endure  it was imperative that I remind myself ” It will be over soon…it will all be over soon…”

I have no intention of reviving the traumas of the past few months which are yet another addition to the multitude of skeletons that lie in my closet as I’m sure each and every one of us has their own dirty laundry.
To me it will never remain any more of a consistent fact that somethings are better left unsaid and forgotten , the human ability to heal emotionally is  in itself a blessing all together that we should all be thankful for , otherwise we are left scarred for life…and we carry our battle wounds with us making them effect  and alter all of our future decisions…

Personal Vendettas

So I cant handle it anymore the intrigues and personal vendettas of every day life at the notoriously immoral yet unquestionably fashionable college of business administration are getting to me…even though I thrive on such things as well as the misery of others , in fact I thrive on the entire concept of human misery…

My professor is harboring a grudge against me and as we speak there are some very dangerous liaisons taking place, a deal of sorts is being negotiated to sidetrack this two faced trollop of a  professor from her cruel intentions

What started out as a parting of the ways marked by a brief period of detente  has escalated this fall by the power struggle I am witnessing within the department, in many ways both my confidante, the most beloved of my professors and the guardian angel of it all our club’s administrator have come to symbolize the chivalrous knightly ideal of our times, yet our secret meetings must remain just that lest we get caught and another of our planned intrigues fail and the students must face the consequences…

Obviously other things as well have been on my mind lately, not least of which a tall gangly youth whom I had the great pleasure of meeting and I must say I’m enraptured by this rather mysterious figure who has captivated my thoughts and despite all the drama that seems to be filling my life right now I take moments to look back at the brief conversations I have had with him yet sadly in every life a little rain must fall and I am once against left to ponder the error of my ways and the bleak future to come…

La Coeur De Leon

La coeur de leon was the posthumous name given to Richard I of England who despite his lionhearted reputation proved to be a failure as king of England and is a historical figure whom I cant have anything but mitigated contempt for, besides the romanticism of the time and heroic deeds such as the crusade so closely attached to the figure there seems to be nothing I can fathom as to why the general public have held him in such high esteem.

In his early life he can be noted as a brutal thug, something I personally think he never grew out of. His father, Henry II, was a wise and very capable English ruler who had seen his kingdom prosper and expand. Richard treacherously joined a conspiracy against his father and raised revolt, only to feebly end up surrendering after begging for mercy. The territories of Aquitaine, which Richard was administering, saw a number of revolts which were said to be especially inspired by Richard’s maladministration, cruelty and military depredations. It was an area which remained frequently inflamed until Richard made personal forays onto the scene to quell dissatisfaction with the sword.

As a King he did not much improve his capacity as an administrator, he simply expanded his ineptitude to the whole Anglo-Norman realm instead of just Aquitaine. He spent only 6 months of his 10 year reign on the island of Britain itself, which he excused by saying “it’s always cold and raining here”. Indeed he cared so little for the British Isles that he once remarked, “if I could find a buyer I would have sold London itself.” This remark he made while raising funds to go on a vain-glorious military adventure to Palestine, better known as the Third Crusade.

In that campaign he distinguished himself with his usual courage and battlefield warrior skills, in one engagement he charged nearly singlehanded into a mass of Saracen soldiers to relieve a desperately hard pressed Christian fortress. So impressed was Saladin with Richard that when Richard’s horse was killed from under him Saladin ordered one of his prize mounts be led out to the man the Arabs forever referred to after as Malik Rik. But once again Richard’s personal arrogance, diplomatic ineptitude, cruelty and sheer pig headedness betrayed the entire expedition. His premature execution of Saracen prisoners in spite of an agreement with Saladin saw Saladin execute his Christian prisoners in turn, causing major divisions in the heterogeneous Crusader army. Richard also antagonized the other Christian leaders of the Crusade to such an extent that a combined march on Jerusalem under the shadow of this boorish thug became unthinkable. After the capture of Acre he actually threw down the royal standard of the Austrian Duke Leopold so he could hoist up his own. His warrior skills were an asset, but his personality defects eventually cost him the patience of his allies as relations became increasingly strained due to the toll that Richards’ rancor and outright stupidity had on people’s morale and that despite his continuing united effort on the campaign for which he had aimed , he made It inevitable for his allies to return home prematurely.

Richard stayed for a while longer, failing to achieve much now that his allies had gone home. He then attempted to return home, only to be captured en rout by the same Duke Leopold whom he had insulted earlier. Leopold handed him over to the Holy Roman Emperor; he ransomed him for a sum which bankrupted the badly neglected English Kingdom. Richard then returned home and died needlessly while on campaign.

The well run and prosperous state of Henry II by that time was gone. Replacing it was a badly neglected, impoverished, bankrupt kingdom with constant rebellions sweeping its badly administered lands that became Easy pickings for the waiting Phillip II Augustus.

With regards to Richard alleged homosexuality I will try and present both cases of numerous historians who believe in the truth or untruth of this matter which to some was nothing more than political mudslinging, here is one such reference:

English chronicler Roger of Howden reported that in 1187 Richard and King Philip of France shared a bed but it was common for people of the same sex to do so.  It was an expression of trust not of sexual desire.  It was common too for men to kiss or hold hands, but these were political gestures of friendship or of peace, not of erotic passion.  It is a mistake to assume that an act that had one symbolic meaning 800 years ago carries the same message today.

The question that raises itself however is why the figure of Richard seems to be haunted with this rumor yet the question or issue of Philips homosexuality seems to be a subject not at all discussed by historians.

However the only problem with the above mentioned reference is this Roger of Howden would not have written such things down if they weren’t seen as embarrassing or derogatory in some manner. Howden wasn’t interested in general political moves such as kissing, sleeping in the same bed, or holding hands. He was more interested in these moves as scandal than anything else. Howden would not have written contemporary political practices in his chronicle since his readers would have known these practices. The reason for taking down these occurrences was because they were out of the ordinary.

This reference can be interpreted any way you wish, and for whatever political mileage , Howden does not come out and accuse Richard however we have to keep in mind that Howden spent nearly 20 years serving Henry II , whereas he barely recorded three years of Richard’s reign.  And sons do have a habit of replacing their father’s ministers with men of their own choosing , a bitter pill to swallow for Howden perhaps losing his position at court  is proof of his own agenda and reasons for besmirching Richard.

We must better understand that Richard really wasn’t a French man , he was in every way a southerner , that is more in keeping with such courts as those of Navarre and Castile rather than France or England, he was groomed and raised to be a duke of Aquitaine , as well we cant really accuse Richard of causing the revolts of the Aquitaine’s nobility who were notoriously known to be of a volatile and unruly nature , and having reason for grief since they have had in turn two ‘ alien ‘ lords prior to Richard , Louis VII and king henry II respectively.

Richard was a reputed womanizer, one contemporary resource reads ‘ he did not scruple to resort to rape: ‘he carried off the wives daughters and kinswoman of his freemen by force, and made them his concubines, and when he sated his lust on them, he handed them over to his knights for whoring ‘.

In those days homosexuality was seen as a mortal sin and was a sensitive subject  for both faiths , yet his reputation of being a womanizer only leads me to believe he was in a state of denial as according to his environment which condemned homosexuality, Richard had only one woman whom he was emotionally involved with, and that was his mother, he had no love for his wife Berengaria of Navarre, whose conjugal visits to her where far and in between and even then only in keeping with his need to sire a male heir, when he died she was left almost destitute another sign of his disaffection towards her.

we should also take in perspective that there are in fact quite a few contemporary sources which may lead us to believe he was indeed a homosexual, besides bedding with Philip which was substantial enough to be mentioned by the chronicle as was said above, there was another contemporary source which said that Richard met a hermit in a forest who warned him of the sins of Sodom, another was that he confessed for ‘ sins against nature ‘ and was flogged before he went on crusade.

In those days lets not forget people believed in the divine right of kings , the only ones who would dare say something that horrendous about a king would be a member of the clergy , who could have easily winked at something like Richards sexual preference in exchange for him going on crusade.

In the reign of Henry II,   England first witnessed the torturing of people accused of homosexuality, which Henry himself saw as a sin against god , as well it would remain a wonder why Henry showed more of a dislike towards his son Richard than any of his other sons , although the young king and duke Geoffrey were just as treacherous as he was.
He had re-trusted Geoffrey and made him his regent in Normandy even after the rebellion of 1172-3, but he really did dislike Richard, in fact he wanted to wrestle the duchy of Aquitaine from its rightful suzerains, Eleanor and Richard, in order to provide john lack land with an inheritance yet he did not try to confiscate any of the fiefs owed to the young king or duke Geoffrey.

Modern biographers today have also suspected that Berengaria’s brother king Sancho VII was one of Richards lovers  so  it could  be possible that in those days since same gender marriages were unknown, and in order to bind they’re love and allegiance together that they married each others sister, lets not forget although it was Henry and Louis who first arranged for the marriage between Richard and Alys of France , Philip also pressed for the match and was extremely annoyed , hurt and maddened at the fact that Richard supplemented his sister with Berengaria , or was it rather that he supplemented Philip by king Sancho VII both on a political and perhaps personal level??
In regards to Philip using Richard’s homosexuality for winning public opinion over to his side, this would seem highly unlikely if it was he who bedded with him which might have also been another reason why there doesn’t seem to be a multitude of sources that indicate or hint at Richards’ homosexuality.

However, Henry’s dislike from Richard could quite easily stem from the fact that Richard reminded Henry too much of himself, pig-headed, petulant, stubborn, a man who liked to get his own way.

Both Eleanor and Richard considered Aquitaine quite separate from any of Henry II’s landholdings and what better or crueler punishment could be inflicted upon both his rebellious wife and son than to take away that which they both prized , Aquitaine,  and give it to the one person they both disliked, John.

And the question of Alys of France could be looked at another way, as Henry had bedded Alys and sired at least two children from her, in Richards’ eyes she might have been considered damaged goods, she was given “in faith” over to Henry to look after as his future daughter in law after the initial betrothal of alys and Richard had taken place however she had lost her status as a pure virgin which must have been of great importance to most men of the time.

Hardly the suitable beginning for a duchess of Aquitaine let alone a future possible queen as well we must keep in mind that in the eyes of the church such an extra marital relation between Alys and Henry would have debarred Richard from this marriage, in those days the church was a much stronger organization which wielded a lot of say in these matters and the church would have considered this outright incest.

The truth of the matter was , that Alys’ dowry, the vixen, was the ultimate cause of what delayed the return of alys to France and the subject would have caused much friction between Richard and his then ally Philip who’s sister’s reputation was being sullied.

However it is interesting to note that prior to his ascension as king that for the longest time Richard had pressed for the marriage to take place however it was Henry who prevaricated as it seems unlikely that Richard had any qualms about marrying alys despite that her affair was ongoing at the time.

In every way Richard was raised to be a duke of Aquitaine As he was third in line for the throne, his chances initially seemed slim at him pertaining the throne of England but circumstance would have it otherwise, however as such Richard was from the beginning the  heir presumptive of Queen Eleanor’s vast domains , Richard in many respects tried to follow in the footsteps of this strong minded iron lady

After all Richard went on crusade just as she had before him, he tried to govern Aquitaine as she did and he allegedly bedded a king of France as she did! Even the events of their crusade seem to bear some resemblance, Richard was on amiable terms with king Philip prior to their departure however on their arrival back in France their friendship was effectively over after Richard’s display of the spectacular Angevin temper for which his entire lineage and ancestry were famous so for, as was the case with Eleanor, her marriage was on solid terms before the crusade yet rumors of an annulment were already underway as the scattered remnants of the second crusade made their way back to France

As the man who took into his hands the leadership of the third crusade, Richard would ultimately have been either praised or vilified in his own lifetime and for generations afterwards in his success or failure to capture Jerusalem, despite the odds against him, in folklore Richard is still regarded as a hero and an icon of the times of ripe Christian faith.

To me however Richard will always be the saboteur of his own expedition , he inexcusably waited until both he and Philip started the trip to the holy land to divulge to him the fact that betrothal Richard had spent many many years pressing for with Alys wont come to fruition , that I’m sure he knew would not have been any welcoming news for Philip , in fact it was meant to antagonize him, not only did he do that, he antagonized him further by marrying Berengaria and bringing her on crusade with him, thereby flaunting his new wife in front of his alleged lover and dumping his sister in the process.

It seems likely to me that Philip had fallen out of favor with Richard , Berengaria could be seen as the third party or third wheel of the crusade , she was ultimately the person that came in between Richard and Philip whether it was personal or political since after all it could have been possible that Philip kept up the pretense that he was doing all this for his sister but in reality he had wanted to keep Richard close to him whether for personal reasons of a romantic nature or whether it was for political reasons , as it is often said , keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer , It is In fact a wonder why Philip chose to fight for the cause of his sister Alys whom he had very little contact with but not fight for his other sister  Agnes , the wife of the byzantine emperor , It was even said that Philip was indifferent to his own family yet that can still be argued since Richard’s lands were right on Philip’s doorstep however there was little that could have been down about Agnes who was in far away Byzantium at the time.

In the same sense that Berengaria had come in between Richard and Philip and caused discord between the crusaders who soon after formed factions, similarly Raymond of Antioch the alleged lover of Eleanor most ardently had come in between man and wife, there were scandalous rumors that Eleanor had an affair with this man who was also her uncle although this remained unfounded but the damage had effectively been done to both crusades by these third “wheels”.

Lastly Richard largest failing was providing his kingdom with an heir of some competence, although he had inherited a viable kingdom, he had passed England which was on the brink of destitution into the hands of the unreliable john whom Mathew Paris summed up in his famous description  ” foul as it is, Hell Itself is defiled by the presence of john”.

This all gave way and set the stage for Philip to fully incorporate much of modern day France into the royal demesne and the fall of the once mighty Angevin empire that Henry spent so much time trying to hold together was sadly at last crumbling and the blame could largely be placed on Richard.

After all there is nothing as lethal as a lover scorched, so readers be wary of your own spurned lovers! And I hope that you were as enlightened as I was to find out the truth about this figure in history that sadly is not deemed worthy of our respect.

The Founding of Rome and Carthage

queen dido was a Phoenician queen and daughter of the king  of Tyre , most notably known as the illustrious founder of carthage her story has been documented by the histories as well as being an amazing tale of wonderment in Virgil”s literary Aeneid.

Although the exact dates of the founding of both Rome and Carthage are not exactly known, historians best estimate this momentous date to 814 B.C , the story of this Tyrian princess starts  when the  king of Tyre proclaims that both Dido and her younger brother Pygmalion as joint heirs to the throne however after their fathers passing Pygmalion sees no reason why he should have to share his kingship with both his sister Dido and her husband Acerbas , a man of incomparable wealth,  and decides to rid himself of his brother in law.

After secretly scheming and then implementing the death of Acerbas the avaricious Pygmalion hoped to gain his legendary treasures whom  Acerbas had hid in fear of Pygmalion’s greed however by a twist of fate it was revealed to queen dido in a dream that it was her brother who assassinated her husband and that her husband urged her to flee the land.

In an effort to distract and antagonize her evil brother Dido feigned that she had discarded all of Acerbas’s treasure into the sea however these bags only contained sand and not treasure.

After having already planned her get away , Dido and those who remained loyal to her entered into a perilous sea voyage which would eventually lead to the shores of carthage however this voyage which contained Acerbas’s treasure was not without its risk for Pygmalion may have been hot on their pursuit.

after having left Tyre it is said that dido and her companions landed on Cyprus where they took 80 women who had been prostituting themselves on the shore of the island to provide wives for the men of future carthage.

Upon their  arrival on  the coasts of north africa and after having established the great city of carthage queen dido prominence and the greatness of her city made her a political prize as a spouse to any aspiring ruler and though many suitors came Dido was adamant in her denial prefering to remain loyal to the memory of her husband until one day Aeneas arrived…

It is not clear whether it was love at first site or how this unholy of all unions came to be but it was Atleast  on Dido’s part that she fell fiercely and furiously in love with Aeneas the son of king Priam , the deposed king of troy and the leader of remnants of the Trojan war more famously known as the Aeneads.

there after came another suitor for dido’s hand in marriage , the king of Mauratani pressed for a political alliance with Carthage to be sealed by their immediate marriage , this king declared that he shall either have dido as his wife or that he would wage war against Carthage.

Dido was faced by a dilemma should she act as queen and do what is in the best interests of her country? or should she follow her heart and remain loyal to Aeneas?

but before dido could decide what she was going to do , the politically astute king of mauratani realized that it was Aeneas who was standing in the way of his marriage and therefore offered him plots of land for him to rule of no true significance at that time…however this later came to be Rome.

As the ship of the Aeneads sailed away from Carthage towards Rome,  word came to dido of what had happened and after having realized Aeneas’s treachery dido chose to die by constructing a ceremonial funerary pyre  where she cast herself onto a sword  , she slew herself  while her sister held her in her hands as the entire bed and pyre caught on fire and in this final scene queen dido curses the descendants of Aeneas predicting that enmity will rise between the sons of rome and the son of carthage and foreshadowing the punic wars…It is said that Aeneas saw this tragic scene as he was sailing off into the sun set and could only guess what happened…

despite her tragic end which has captured the imagination of many artists and literary works dido was never the less and illusive although somewhat obscure figure in history  , she was deified in her own life time and was a venerated goddess in  Carthage.. yet sadly queen dido met a tragic and untimely death as had her great aunt queen jezebel yet another female ruler  before her whom i will write about in a future post.

P.S this fragmented history traces its sources back to virgils aeneid and other historical references.

Baroness wivalley!

Madoline wivalley

Remember her? one of the greatest cartoon antagonist of all time! not only does she pull you in with all the secrecy and the lies , she does it in style too!! her chique posture her admirable beauty , elegance and overwhelming wealth become her!

lady madoline had to be one of the biggest attractions of my childhood and i just felt like taking a trip down memory lane!  let me know what you think!

Breakfast at Tiffany’s

Audrey Hepburn

I don’t think A lot of people really got the meaning of this movie so i thought i’d just throw this one out , Audrey Hepburn’s spectacular performance in this movie is unrivaled and for the most part people just took it to be some sort of shallow meaningless movie about the daily routines of a socialite and courtesan although it is much more than that.

To start off  through out the whole movie we see this fluffy bubbly atmosphere with perhaps a few interludes of sadness but generally the vivacious and lively character of holly Golightly lets us enjoy the movie as well as the sheer extravagance of her clothes , her surroundings and the reminder of the wealth the world witnessed in the 60’s and brush aside the importance of the messages left to us.

breakfast at Tiffany gives a good insight into the lives of some of the best escorts of the time and one of the unwanted effects of city life , it is never clear whether holly ever slept with her unofficial “clientele” however the scene with fred and his ”  maitresse en titre ” makes it blatantly and adamantly clear that he is infact a male escort of sorts.

however when it comes to holly and escorts in general , the movie shows that some tend to get entangled into the shady walks of life and we see this in the venue in which holly has chosen to finance her living by getting involved with sally tomato as well other issues were raised like how they are treated as material objects , Fred’s mistress treats him as just another addition to the apartment she furnished for him and as though he something that she owns and at the beginning of the movie we see how holly’s date feels that he is entitled to more than a dinner out with holly.

Fred and holly try to get infused into upper society by wearing designer clothes and  luxurious jewelry and trying to have the same life style atleast in part and trying to come off as though they are in  league but at certain times and even the building they live in shows the fact they are fake wannabe’s however this proves to be exhausting and holly herself admits that it has caused more of a financial drain to her as time goes by.

we also see how holly and fred although viewed by their ” clientele ” as nothing more than a handsome face are infact people with former lives , fred was once a somewhat successful writer and strikingly holly was married and had a brother in the army , the point trying to be made here was that escorts are people too  , they have lives and families and even feelings and that we should be more humane in our view of them since both holly and fred’s past somewhat show us the reasons as to why they have taken up becoming escorts , as for fred his writing career had taken a plunge for the worse and holly felt immensely trapped in her marriage and needed  a fresh new start but after having realized they had no other alternative were forced to take up this demeaning livelihood in order to ensure their survival.

The movie also shows all the time money and effort spent by these people to keep up their professional repertoire’s , connections and social appearance as shown by the conversation holly’s agent has about how holly came to be who she is and we see once again that escorts in general and holly in particular are called “phoney’s”.

As well we see the harsh treatment made to holly by her fiance and the love of her life jose who although may or may not have fallen for holly as hardly as she had for him was none the less quicker to get holly of out his life and out of the picture as soon as any scandal was attached to her thereby showing us that although many of these escorts dream of being in a long relationship whether for financial security or for genuine romance , for the vast majority  it is not really an option for them since they are considered of much lower status than with whom they are enthralled.

It is also interesting to note that holly never gives her cat a name simply choosing to keep him the way he is , he is just another faceless character to her which is strikingly the same treatment she gets at the hand of many of the men with whom she becomes associated and lastly we see how paul and holly are meant to end up together since after having taken up such a demeaning post , they are the only ones who could come around to accept the shady details of each others past in order to secure the others greater person and that in some form or another this just shows how segregated society was back in the day and things seem to work out as dictated by society with groups sticking to themselves.

breakfast at Tiffany’s is definitely one of my all time favourites as im sure it is for many who have come around to understand the underlying sentiment of the movie , i hope you enjoyed it as much as i did!

Bad Omens

Although technically i don’t believe in bad omens but recently i confided to my friends that i had this innate sixth sense that something awful was about to happen and a few days later  the catastrophic burning down of the Jahra wedding  marked what i was expecting , as well a friend of mine has told me that every time i mention something or someone they tend to appear to them as unlikely as they might be , they might just be coincidence but who knows? animals can sense earthquakes , volcanoes and other destructive forces before they occur as well there has been a study which showed that human beings are able and likely to guess things just seconds before they happen or appear by measuring their heart rates and brain waves , ever feel like the phone is about to ring and then it does!? these tests included trying to get humans to predict which card would be showed to them just seconds before they appear ,  psychologists are working to find a scientific answer to all these questions.

I may not even be  a little superstitious however i cant help but feel alarmed after having seen a dead kitten yesterday and a dead cat today ( does that mean the vibe is getting stronger? who knows…) not to mention in two incidents during the past month ive come across bats hovering around my head , i think we can all conclude that bats arent an everyday appearance in Kuwait and the last but not least of these omens is supposedly one of the worst you can get , a friend of mine hit a pure white dove today and killed it and all these incidents seem to be happening at night which is what strikes me the most…whatever is happening im sure glad i dont believe in bad omens because otherwise id feel like im living in a cheap horror movie…what are your beliefs? and what do you think?

American History…Not Suprised!

well each picture is worth a thousand words and there’s seven of them!! i think its typical of the American public to debase their history like this…i mean if they can debase their public figures…whats left that cant be tarnished? but the again freedom of speech does have its advantages , i have to admit though they can be rather amusing!

Sworn to Honour , Love and Obey!

It’s recently come to my attention how rare a value loyalty is in people nowadays…friends and family seem to just forget all that they come to share all their memories and i guess i might be just old fashioned but i believe that people can choose to be better or lesser beings…for example here is a person who i would consider a model of virtue ,  a man who by choice chooses not to eat meat in order to not harm animals is a better person than someone who doesn’t , as well lets take an example of two animals the thorn bird and the pig…pigs don’t mate for life…they have as many sexual partners in a lifetime as they want whereas the thornbird mates only once in its life time and if its partner dies it leads a life on it on…i might not believe in soul mates , i think you work at your marriage and relationships to make them work , but there was once an era where men had better values , when divorce wasn’t taken as lightly as it is today and i like to think that there still some good in the world out there , in the end you get to decide do you want to be a thornbird? or do you want to be a pig? ofcourse there are other ethical issues id like to raise in the future but id just like to conclude this story of a true Kuwaiti woman who was helping prepare her granddaughter for her bridal shower and wedding the piece of advice given to her was as follows :

“my dear just as you have one god and one grave..you shall have only one husband! so make the most of it!”

now thats what i call a true Kuwaiti woman with true Kuwaiti ideals!

we can choose to live like angels or we can choose to live like demons…in the end its a matter of choice…so choose wisely..